S3 : Ep. 26 Expectation Hangover

"Enough was never enough."

Christine Hassler was an over achiever. Each time she'd reach a milestone - she'd hurry off to the next big goal... never taking time to pause, recoup or celebrate. Early in her career, she was a high level producer in Hollywood... and completely unhappy.

Today, she realizes that she was keeping busy and "achieving" in order to not have to truly feel her feelings. To get this sense of clarity, Christine had to have a mighty fall... Embrace the lessons from that fall and then build her new, fulfilling life.

You are going to love the concrete insights and how-to's from Christine Hassler, bestselling author, podcaster, life coach and counselor.

SHOW NOTES

• Choose new thoughts and habits. Use discipline to transform education and awareness into integration in your life. Just having the information is psychological entertainment.
• Numbing out is easier. When you gossip and watch reality TV you can just be entertained. If you listen, engage with content that makes you feel: You have to process your feelings.
• We either control and resist life or we move with it. [Tweet this.]
• 20 something / 20 everything her book for 20-something women thinking: Who am I? What do I want & how do I get it?
• It's important for us to own and have compassion for our journeys.
• Don't chase a feeling, chase a result.
• Without being inspired, enough is never enough.
• Control, achievement, plan. That's what I did; because I thought it would keep me safe. As long as I was doing I didn't have to feel or process what was really driving me.
• I got so much validation for all of my hard. That was my identity. But the problem was enough was never enough.
• A lot of us get stuck in the why: Why did this happen to me? Don't get stuck in the analysis. A better question is: What am I learning?
• "Humans learn through contact. When we go through hard times, it gives us more compassion for others."
• What ultimately led her over-achieving nature and suicidal moment at age 26 was the limiting beliefs she'd bought into as little girl.
• How do you stay in "flow"?
  • Breath of fire for 3 minutes when I wake up. Short fast breath through my nose and into my lower body. This calms my very active mind.
  • Mediate for 10 minutes and journaling, clearing out thoughts and anxiety.
  • Make a to-do list for me and one for what I'd like God to help with.
  • Exercise every day. Yoga or the gym.
  • Turn off devices at least one hour before bed. Write things that happened that day I'm grateful for.
  • Increase your awareness. You have choice. You are not a victim of your life.
• Inspiration pulls us forward.
• When you are going through a hard time, remember: It's not going to last forever. It's happening for you not to you. This could be the biggest catalyst in your life.
• When you have a big disappointment: Leverage the amazing lessons and healing opportunities that come forward in major transitions in you life.
• John joined Christine on her podcast: Over it & On with it on. Listen here.

CHRISTINE HASSLER'S LIVE INSPIRED 7

1. What is the best book you've ever read? Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: "Between stimulus and response is our choice & that choice is our freedom."

2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. What would you do? Create a think tank to innovate through some of our major issues - education, poverty, etc.

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? The panda bear my Dad gave me the day I was born. It so reminds me of him, unconditional love and that innocence. it's still part of me, part of all of us.

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? Jesus. And the first question I'd ask: "What's the truth?"

5. What is the best advice you've ever received? After my divorce a friend told me: "Don't be a victim or just rush through it. Be in the mess and explore.Dig deep."

6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20? Don't be so hard on yourself, we think we need to be hard on ourselves to get what we want and keep up with the Jones's. We think if we beat ourselves up first, it won't hurt as bad when someone else tries to.

7. It's been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? I am so grateful.

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