Raising Good Humans S2 Ep 30: Bonus Episode: Siblings: Rivalry, Bullying, Fairness and Aggression
Dec 6, 2021
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Equity Beats Strict Fairness
- Embrace equity over equality by meeting each child's unique needs instead of making things strictly equal.
- This reduces rivalry because children feel loved for who they are, not compared to siblings.
Stop Labels And Comparisons
- Resist comparing children or labeling them (e.g., 'the artist' or 'the math kid') because comparisons fuel rivalry.
- Seek strengths for each child without framing it as a sibling contrast.
Acknowledge Unequal Attention Honestly
- Acknowledge unequal time or attention honestly and offer specific ways to connect rather than insisting on equal treatment.
- Say you'll plan dedicated time together to meet the child's needs instead of arguing about fairness.