Justin Lehmiller - The Science Of Sexual Fantasies

May 30, 2022

Justin Lehmiller, a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of 'Tell Me What You Want,' dives into the intriguing world of sexual fantasies. He reveals how common desires often reflect cultural and personal insecurities. Lehmiller discusses findings from his extensive survey on American fantasies and emphasizes the need for open communication in relationships. He also explores the complexities of friends with benefits dynamics and how fantasies can evolve over time, enhancing intimacy when shared with partners.

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INSIGHT

The Benefits of Embracing Fantasies

Understanding and accepting one's fantasies reduces shame and anxiety, improving sexual and relationship satisfaction.
People who engage with their fantasies report higher levels of sexual satisfaction and happier relationships.

INSIGHT

Gender Differences in Fantasies

While men and women share most fantasy themes, some differences exist.
Men fantasize more about group sex, while women lean towards BDSM and exploring non-heterosexual scenarios.

ADVICE

Experiment to Discover Desires

Try various sexual experiences to discover your preferences, as fantasies and reality may differ.
Try everything twice, as initial attempts can be influenced by anxiety or inexperience.

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What we fantasize about sexually can say a lot about...well, a lot. Our insecurities, our identity, our culture, the list goes on. And what you might think is some strange niche only you hang out in might be more common than you think! This is the conversation the incredible Justin Lehmiller brought to the table, and I'm excited to share it with you. If you're with a part of any variety, listen in together for some great insights.

Dr. Justin Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years.

He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 50 academic works to date, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world.

Dr. Lehmiller’s research focuses on topics including casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. His studies have appeared in all of the leading journals on human sexuality, including the Journal of Sex Research, Archives of Sexual Behavior, and The Journal of Sexual Medicine.

Connect with Justin:

-Website: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/

-LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/justinlehmiller

-Google Scholar: https://scholar.google.com/citations?user=r3pNkRoAAAAJ

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/justinlehmiller

-Book: Tell Me What You Want: https://amzn.to/3x1vmvU

-Podcast: The Sex and Psychology Podcast: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/podcasts/

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