265. Rebuilding Trust Through B.R.A.V.I.N.G.

Feb 11, 2026

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In today’s conversation, we’re talking about something almost everyone has to rebuild at some point—trust.

If you’ve been dismissed, disappointed, shunned, or wounded by church culture, you know how quickly trust can fracture… not just with people, but with yourself and even with God. So we break it down like a three-legged stool:
✅ rebuilding trust with others
✅ rebuilding trust with yourself
✅ rebuilding trust with God

And then we get super practical by unpacking Brené Brown’s “BRAVING” framework—a simple but powerful way to name exactly what was broken, so you can actually rebuild it with clarity (instead of vague “I just don’t trust you anymore” statements).

Drop a comment: Which part of trust is hardest for you to rebuild—trusting others, trusting yourself, or trusting God?

00:00 - Welcome + quick housekeeping (reviews, sharing)
02:57 - The “2:6 Life” theme for 2026 (1 John 2:6)
03:35 - Recap: deconstruction, stuckness, and staying tender
04:18 - Today’s focus: rebuilding trust (self, others, God)
05:24 - The “three-legged stool” of trust (how each affects the others)
06:02 - Why trust matters: you weren’t meant to live isolated
07:01 - Trust in church spaces: “You don’t have to trust us” + earning trust
08:05 - Trust is rebuilt through experience, not explanation
09:28 - What betrayal/broken trust actually breaks (and why wording matters)
13:15 - Nuance: disagreement vs dishonor vs relationship removal
15:27 - Layer 1: rebuilding trust with leaders/communities
16:24 - Layer 2: rebuilding trust with yourself (discernment + red flags)
17:29 - Layer 3: rebuilding trust with God (prayer, numbness, expectations)
18:57 - What trust is (and what trust is NOT)
20:13 - Introducing Brené Brown’s “BRAVING” framework
21:34 - B — Boundaries (doors with hinges, not walls)
22:54 - R — Reliability (do what you say you’ll do)
23:50 - A — Accountability (own it, apologize, make amends)
24:44 - V — Vault (confidentiality + why it matters)
29:34 - I — Integrity (values in action, courage over comfort)
29:59 - N — Non-judgment (ask for what you need without shame)
30:29 - G — Generosity (most generous interpretation / benefit of the doubt)
31:39 - BRAVING recap + why specificity helps rebuild trust
32:02 - Next week teaser: living faith without certainty (“the sin of certainty”)
32:21 - Closing encouragement + “you’re loved” outro