Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon Relational Health: Loving with the Brain in Mind with Dr. Mona Fishbane (Re-release)
Feb 3, 2026
Dr. Mona Fishbane, clinical psychologist who blends neurobiology with couples therapy, shares perspectives on aging together, emotional reactivity, and the Vulnerability Cycle. She explores power in relationships, how childhood shapes triggers, and practical habits for staying connected. Short stories and concrete metaphors make complex science feel human and useful.
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A Long Marriage With Learning
- Mona and her husband have been married over 52 years and are navigating aging together with humor and challenge.
- They call out each other's faults respectfully and edit each other's writing as a loving ritual.
Couples' Circular Dances Drive Conflict
- Couples often get trapped in circular dances like criticize–defend or pursue–withdraw rather than linear blame.
- Understanding these interactional patterns reframes problems as co-created dynamics to be changed together.
Name Feelings, Not Blame
- Speak from vulnerabilities (lonely, scared) instead of survival strategies (you're selfish, you never).
- Use vulnerability-language to elicit empathy and reduce partner defensiveness.
