Helping Without Becoming the Household Help Desk

Ever catch yourself saying, “I shouldn’t have to tell you this” and immediately feel your brain power leak out through your ears? In this bite-sized episode, Dr. Tracy names a sneaky mental load pattern: “renting mom’s brain.” It’s those constant micro-asks, where’s my hat, did you see my keys, what are we doing for dinner, that pull you out of your own task to manage someone else’s.
Dr. Tracy breaks down how this becomes a self-feeding loop: the ask, your automatic solve, and then…more asks forever. She shares a recent “hat moment” with Greg that revealed the role of autopilot, plus practical, do-this-today steps to shift the dynamic without blame, shame, or turning your home into a cold war.

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