The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne #9: I see you-I am here (Simplicity Diary)
Jul 19, 2018
The podcast explores the importance of being fully present with our children, how parental presence positively impacts problem-solving and sibling relationships, and the significance of being emotionally available for our children at different developmental stages.
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Zulu Greeting Sparks Presence
- Kim John Payne recounts a Zulu greeting, 'so banu' and 'no hoyna', that means 'I see you' and 'I am here'.
- He uses this memory to introduce presence as a core parenting practice.
Be There, Don't Immediately Fix
- Do be physically present with your child rather than rushing to fix problems instantly.
- Sit nearby, say little, and let your presence often be enough to support them.
Presence Boosts Sibling Problem-Solving
- Presence with siblings encourages them to solve conflicts and build problem-solving skills.
- Being nearby creates a nonrefereeing energy that lets children negotiate together.