The Therapy Edit One Thing with Lorraine Candy on accepting that your children won't always be happy
May 19, 2023
Lorraine Candy, journalist and author who writes about parenting and midlife, shares tough-love wisdom from raising four children. She explains why it is okay for kids to feel sad. Short, honest takes on avoiding toxic positivity, modelling real emotions, and how repair and boundaries keep families safe.
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Missing The Toddler Years
- Lorraine Candy says she misses parenting younger children and wishes she'd savoured toddler years more.
- She describes parenting teenagers as harder than toddlers and urges slowing down and presence.
Children Won't Be Happy Constantly
- Lorraine Candy says children cannot be happy all the time and that is normal.
- Accepting this reduces parental pressure and reframes expectation as healthier for everyone.
Ask How To Help Before Fixing
- Do allow your child to feel sadness and resist rushing to fix every moment for them.
- Ask them whether they want you to solve, listen, or just sit with them before acting.
