All In The Mind Family estrangement and infidelity: Esther Perel answers your questions
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Mar 14, 2026 
Esther Perel, psychotherapist and bestselling author known for her work on relationships, answers listener questions. She explores whether cheaters can change, how to grieve an estranged dying parent, rebuilding attraction after trauma, and why love is not always easy. Short, practical reflections on reconnecting, collective trauma, and the power of later-in-life first loves.
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Turn Shame Into Responsibility With Apologies
- Turn shame about past cheating into responsibility by apologising to former partners you hurt.
- Write brief apologies for your own closure, without expecting empathy, to repair your legacy in others' hearts.
Cheating Is Complex Not Binary
- Cheating is a complex, loaded term so examine what you actually did and what dishonesty means in your life.
- Investigate how past vulnerabilities, models (like family) and other dishonest behaviours shaped your choices.
Go To Say Goodbye For Yourself Not For Resolution
- If a dying parent is emotionally unsafe, go to say goodbye for yourself, not to fix the relationship.
- Use presence to speak your truth internally or aloud, without expecting reconciliation or forgiveness.
