Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson What's Good Parenting? Key Skills, Healthy Relationships, and Making the Choice
Oct 23, 2023
The podcast discusses the choice to become a parent, the motivations behind it, qualities of a good parent, and the rewards of parenting. They also explore the dynamics of parent-child relationships, the high standards of parenting, and the importance of community and personal values when considering parenthood.
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Parenthood Is A Moral Commitment
- Choosing parenthood is a profound moral decision because bringing a being into the world commits your future self to decades of responsibility.
- Rick Hanson frames it as "inflicting consciousness on unsuspecting flesh," emphasizing long-term duties and not sliding into parenthood by default.
Check If A Child Would Be A Means To Your Needs
- Ask yourself whether having a child would be a means to get needs met (care, immortality, fixing a relationship) or an end in itself.
- Forrest Hanson advises being wary of wanting children to solve personal deficits like depression or relationship problems.
Plans Change Once Biology Takes Over
- Biology and societal forces can overwhelm pre-birth plans; once pregnancy occurs, primal drives and social dynamics often change intentions.
- Rick Hanson recounts their cashflow planning for Forrest, then how "cashflow projections went out the window" after conception.