Nicolle Hodges: The Sexual Freedom Philosopher

Jan 30, 2025

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If you’re craving a crash course on the philosophy of kink won’t find a better guide than the Sexual Freedom Philosopher herself, Nicolle Hodges.

This episode of You Like It dives deep into the mythological implications of kink, the subtleties of power dynamics, and the vital role of trust in BDSM. Hodges sheds light on common misconceptions, reveals gaps in BDSM literature, and discusses how kink can serve as a powerful avenue for healing and self-discovery. The conversation also covers cultural shifts sparked by phenomena like Fifty Shades of Grey, the significance of community evolution, and the rewards and challenges of exploring the shadow self through BDSM.

Nicolle Hodges is a journalist, author, and Sexual Freedom Philosopher, as well as the founder of Girls Who Say Fuck—an incubator for projects and conversations that instigate change. She is the author of Oh, the Places You’ll Go Oh Oh, a Dr. Seuss-style exploration of the power of female orgasms. Hodges also created the video series Men Who Take Baths and launched the Garden of Earthly Delights event series to challenge societal norms around sexuality. Currently, she is completing a new book that explores BDSM as therapy, continuing her mission to expand conversations and empower people to embrace their own desires.

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(03:12) Exploring BDSM and Sexual Freedom
(05:47) The Philosophy of Dominance and Submission
(09:40) Literature and Resources on Kink
(11:43) Misconceptions and Realities of BDSM
(20:58) The Role of Trust and Consent
(31:57) The Healing Power of Kink
(35:06) The Myth of Inanna
(39:32) Kink and Personal Growth
(42:06) The Healing Journey of Kink
(46:16) Advice for Kink Beginners
(51:08) Kink in the Context of Modern Culture
(57:12) Masculinity and Sexual Expression