Thrive Solo The One Where I Talk To 'Dad Hugs For Your Soul' Founder, Harry Hardisty
My guest this week is Harry Hardisty, creator of the TikTok/Instagram/Facebook channels 'Dad Hugs for Your Soul,' which offers support for people recovering from difficult relationships; he started the channels just over a year ago, and now has a quarter of a million followers across all his socials.
Harry created 'Dad Hugs For Your Soul' as a safe, supportive space for anyone struggling with a relationship, especially if the person in question has left you questioning your worth, or if you’re chasing closure that never came. He wanted to help people move towards healing with honestly, compassion, and support.
Our conversation inclused: the difficult relationship he had with his Dad that resulted in his anxious attachment style and the work he did to heal from that; the mistakes people make when they chase happiness in a romantic partner; the pressure and expectation that romantic relationships have to last forever; why Harry’s view of romance and romantic relationships aren’t what most people think they are; why authenticity is so incredibly important; and why Harry isn’t a great believer in the so-called male loneliness epidemic.
04:31 How Dad Hugs Went Viral + Why the Audience Is Mostly Women
07:37 Anxious Attachment Origins: An Avoidant Dad & the Abandonment Wound
11:00 Healing the Pattern: Self-Audit, Accountability & Learning to Be Enough Alone
16:03 Stop Outsourcing Happiness: Validation, Addiction-Like Attachment & Self-Love
23:56 Are the Most Healed People Single? Authenticity, Acceptance & Growth Through Pain
29:55 Do Healthy Relationships Even Exist? Rethinking Romance Beyond “Forever”
34:11 The “Bubble Marriage” + Why Relationships Aren’t Failures When They End
37:01 Marriage as a 50/50 gamble + letting go of ego
38:05 Authenticity on social media: ditch the armor, “just mean it”
42:35 Not a therapist, but real experience: handling backlash with conviction
46:45 The widening dating gap: women opting out & men’s online toxicity
52:02 Why men struggle emotionally: how boys get de-socialised from vulnerability
01:00:22 Intentional Dating: why “searching for love” (and apps) set you up to fail
01:03:36 Red flags & green flags: beware polished profiles, date the happy/peaceful man
01:07:31 Words of wisdom: secure attachment = happy single together + date yourself
01:10:11 Where to find Harry + support packs
Check out Harry's website & buy his support packs: https://dadhugsforyoursoul.com/
Follow Harry on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadhugsforyoursoul
Follow Harry on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dadhugsforyoursoul/
Follow Harry on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadhugsforyoursou
Check out Harry's YouTube Channel: http
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