The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins The Reason Your Needs and Desires Are Not Being Met (Hint: You're Not too Needy)
If you are honest with yourself, most high-functioning women already know the answer. Needs are the basics, the foundation. But desire is different. It is where intimacy, connection, and pleasure actually live, and it is the first thing to go when you are overfunctioning.
This is what I see every day. Women who are successful, capable, and holding everything together, but feel disconnected in their relationships. Not because something is wrong with them, but because they have lost access to their own desires.
When you are living in your head, planning, managing, and carrying the emotional load, your body shifts into survival mode. Low libido, lack of arousal, and feeling disconnected are not just hormone issues. They reflect your nervous system and the dynamics in your relationship.
Over time, this creates relationships where you are great teammates but not lovers. You ask for less than you need, or stop asking altogether. You default to your partner and lose connection to yourself.
There are three patterns driving this. Being cut off from your desires, living in your head instead of your body, and beliefs that keep you overfunctioning while your needs go unmet. From the outside, everything looks fine. On the inside, you feel exhausted and disconnected, unsure why it is so hard to feel fulfilled.
If your needs and your desires are not being met, your body already knows. This does not change by trying harder. It changes when you reconnect to your body, your desires, and what allows you to experience intimacy again.
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