Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties Episode 64: It's Okay To Want More
Oct 7, 2019
They tackle shame and authenticity around past hookups and whether to disclose them to new partners. They question gendered expectations about friends who used to be lovers. They push back on the stigma of living with parents and offer ways to frame financial choices confidently. They explore when wanting more in a relationship is valid and how to tell lust from love without spoilers.
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Disclose Past Hookups Early To Build Trust
- Be upfront about past sexual history with new partners to avoid hidden resentment later.
- Sam recommends saying briefly and honestly (e.g., 'we hooked up a few times but now we're friends') so trust isn't undermined if it surfaces later.
A Trustworthy Partner Makes Disclosure Easier
- Sierra shares that her current girlfriend makes it easy to disclose difficult things without paranoia, contrasting past manipulative partners.
- This personal example illustrates how a trustworthy partner reduces shame and enables honest communication.
Stop Using Logistics As An Excuse To Avoid Dating
- Don't use living with parents as a shield to avoid dating; put yourself out there even if logistics feel awkward.
- Sam and Sierra urge B to date now, network as an artist, and speak about her situation with confident reasoning.
