Ask Aunty: How do you honour a loved one when their ashes are held hostage?

Has anyone ever made you responsible for what happens after they die? It's a lot of pressure, but honouring a loved one's wishes can be even trickier when the family don't agree. 

This week, the aunties are giving advice to a listener whose dad asked them to scatter his ashes in a special spot. But it's been 10 years, and another family member is still clinging onto them.