Finding Brave 288: How to Recognize Your Success Wound and Heal It
Do you ever get the sinking feeling that, no matter how hard you work or what you do, it's never enough? Our culture is stuck in an old paradigm that views success as a destination rather than a journey, attainable by only the lucky few at the top. But what if there was another way?
For insight into her "new paradigm of success," we are joined by Brooke Taylor, a Transformational Career Coach for women, former Marketing Lead at Google, and global expert in a phenomenon she has coined the Success Wound, which is the pain high-achievers experience when they mistake their success for self-worth.
In this episode, Brooke breaks down some of the most common misconceptions that high-achievers have about success and shares her game-changing methodology to create a powerfully aligned life on your own terms and transform your relationship with success forever.
Tuning in, you'll learn about the five types of unfulfilled achievers, how your Success Wound might be driving your "success ideal," and actionable steps you can take to begin to heal. If you're ready to build a dream career (and an even better life), this episode is for you!
Key Points From This Episode:
- Defining the Success Wound and how it manifests differently in men and women. [04:57]
- What your success ideal might look like when it's driven by your Success Wound. [11:16]
- Common misconceptions about success and the five "unfulfilled achiever" archetypes. [14:16]
- How to identify whether you're operating from your wounding or your wholeness. [18:40]
- The sometimes unseen impact of paradoxical expectations of success for women. [23:25]
- Inherently patriarchal capitalistic cultural notions that inform our success ideals. [27:33]
- Why we need to shift our being, working, and thinking to heal the Success Wound. [28:52]
- What a state of aligned ambition looks like and why it's so important. [32:09]
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Quotes:
"We try to live up to this ideal of what a successful (fill in the blank) identity looks like. The gap between where we are, who we are, and our ability to live up to that ideal [is] the deficiency that creates the Success Wound." — Brooke Taylor [0:10:00]
"We all logically know that our salary isn't our worth and our job title won't make us happy, but there's still something inside of us that is trying to live up to the 'success ideal'." — Brooke Taylor [0:13:44]
"How we try to live up to [our] success ideal, we all have different strategies for that. We all have different ways that we attempt to work when we're working from our wounding." — Brooke Taylor [0:15:15]
"I don't know what the answer is. I wish I did, but it starts with deconditioning, deprogramming, and unlearning cultural myths about success within us first so we don't pass them on." — Brooke Taylor [0:27:20]
"Once we [understand] what our Success Wound looks like and how it operates within our lives, we then want to say, 'Okay. How do I go about healing this?' It requires a shift in how we be, how we work, and how we think." — Brooke Taylor [0:30:03]
"The essential question [to ask yourself] is: am I working from my wounding or – from my wholeness? Am I working from strategies I'm using to try to protect myself and live up to this unachievable ideal or – from a space of collaboration, creativity, and confidence?" — Brooke Taylor [0:32:24]
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