Dealing with Feeling When "Be Patient" Protects the System, with Dr. Christina Cipriano
"Be patient" gets treated like a virtue in every system. Sometimes it is. Sometimes it is the line that keeps unfairness in place, because it asks the people carrying the cost to stay quiet so everyone else can stay comfortable.
Dr. Marc Brackett sits down with Dr. Christina "Chris" Cipriano on Dealing With Feeling to talk about what patience looks like when it is wisdom, and what it looks like when it becomes compliance. They also talk about how to interrupt harm without turning it into humiliation.
In this conversation:
- When "be patient" supports growth, and when it protects comfort
- Why "that's just how we do things" can be one of the most dangerous phrases in any system
- Calling people in vs. calling people out, and what each one asks of a leader
- What it means to hold urgency and dignity in the same moment
- A simple reset you can use when tension spikes and you still have to lead
- How to respond when you feel that stomach drop, but you cannot opt out of the room
About the guest: Dr. Christina "Chris" Cipriano is an Associate Professor at the Yale Child Study Center and the Director of the Education Collaboratory at Yale. She is the author of Be Unapologetically Impatient: The Mindset Required to Change the Way We Do Things.
Connect with Dr. Christina "Chris" Cipriano:
Website: https://www.drchriscip.com
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