Conversations with Tyler Mary Gaitskill on Subjects That Are Vexing Everybody
Mary Gaitskill, an acclaimed novelist and essayist known for her candid portrayals of human complexities, joins the conversation to discuss a variety of thought-provoking topics. She reveals why some people choose unhappiness and explores the fragility of personality through the lens of human and feline behaviors. Gaitskill reflects on her experiences working as a stripper and at The Strand bookstore, critiques creative writing programs, and shares insights on navigating online writing. Her frank approach to topics like cloning pets and supporting troubled teenagers is both enlightening and heart-wrenching.
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The Physical World
- Mary Gaitskill's attention to physical detail comes naturally; it's how she understands the world, including people.
- She also consciously develops this skill by observing things and asking herself, "How does that look?"
Accepting Horrible People
- Gaitskill recounts her therapist's advice: "People are just horrible [...] the sooner you realize that, the happier you're going to be."
- She found this both funny and wise, emphasizing the importance of accepting reality.
Helping Teens
- Limit social media and encourage physical activity to help troubled teenagers.
- Implementing this on a large scale is challenging due to individual differences.
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Intro
00:00 • 3min
Understanding Threat Responses: Cats and Human Emotions
03:07 • 10min
Exploring Approaches to Support Troubled Teenagers
12:41 • 2min
Navigating Loss and Connection: Pets, Cloning, and Online Communities
14:24 • 2min
Navigating Online Writing and Feedback
16:31 • 15min
Reflections on New York City and the Impact of Creative Writing Programs
31:35 • 3min
Navigating Identity and Experience
34:32 • 11min
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Mary Gaitskill's knack for writing about the social and physical world with unapologetic clarity has led to her style being described both as "cold and brutal" and "tender and compassionate." Tyler considers her works The Mare, Veronica, and Lost Cat to be some of the best and most insightful American fiction in recent times. And lately she's taken to writing essays on Substack, where she frankly analyzes "subjects that are vexing everybody," including incels, Depp v. Heard, and political fiction.
She joined Tyler to discuss the reasons some people seem to choose to be unhappy, why she writes about oddballs, the fragility of personality, how she's developed her natural knack for describing the physical world, why we're better off just accepting that people are horrible, her advice for troubled teenagers, why she wouldn't clone a lost cat, the benefits and drawbacks of writing online, what she's learned from writing a Substack, what gets lost in Kubrick's adaptation of Lolita, the not-so-subtle eroticism of Victorian novels, the ground rules for writing about other people, how creative writing programs are harming (some) writers, what she learned about men when working as a stripper, how her views of sexual permissiveness have changed since the '90s, how college students have changed over time, what she learned working at The Strand bookstore, and more.
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