10% Happier with Dan Harris The Best Way To Feel Calm (Is to Not Try To Feel Calm)
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Feb 20, 2026 Live Q&A tackles meditating through grief and working with deep emotional pain. They explore the hidden craving for calm and why chasing it backfires. Tips for easeful concentration and reducing effort in practice are shared. Practical strategies for ADHD, restlessness, and trying guided versus unguided approaches round out the conversation.
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Self As Process, Not A Core
- The self you look for usually isn't a solid core but a process or flow.
- Not finding a fixed self can be freeing and help you relate differently to emotions.
Looking For The Inner CEO
- Dan describes Henry Shookman's practice of looking for the part of yourself trying to keep things together and rarely finding a fixed self.
- He says the act of "not finding" the core self is itself a meaningful discovery.
Work With Grief By Noticing And Investigating
- When grief or rumination arises, notice thinking vs. emotion and label mental activity like "thinking."
- Investigate where sadness lives in the body to create distance and navigate intense feelings more smoothly.