The Place We Find Ourselves 98 Engaging With Someone Who Has Harmed You Part 5
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Aug 30, 2021 A final look at setting clear boundaries and using relational consequences when someone refuses to soften. A concrete confrontation example with a parent and a six-month conversational break. Biblical cases showing temporary withdrawal can spur change. How to test whether consequences aim for restoration, and the three steps required for true reconciliation.
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Repentance Often Follows Painful Consequences
- Consequences are sometimes necessary because a wicked person often won't repent until they feel pain.
- Dan Allender: at some point it's not loving to continue a relationship without signs of repentance and change.
God Withdrew From Israel As A Precedent
- Use Scripture as a model: God temporarily withdrew from Israel in Hosea until they admitted guilt.
- Adam Young points to Hosea 5 where God says He will go back to His place until they admit their guilt.
Check Motive By Imagining Repentance
- Before enforcing a consequence, check your motive by asking if you long for restoration and can imagine repentance.
- If you can picture your father moved to tears and desire reconciliation, your motive is restoration, not revenge.