Strictly Anonymous Confessions

1405 - Mark & Tonya Went from Being Mormon to Becoming Swingers

Mar 23, 2026
A couple recounts leaving the Mormon faith and discovering a swinging lifestyle. They describe taboo church sex rules, creative loopholes, and the curiosity that led them to clubs and swinger resorts. Stories include first club visits, first same-sex experiences, dealing with jealousy, and how communication rebuilt their intimacy.
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ANECDOTE

Abuse Was Dismissed By Church Leaders When It First Surfaced

  • Mark disclosed childhood sexual abuse and says church leaders and his parents suppressed it when he first revealed it as a teen.
  • He only fully processed and told details decades later after ayahuasca and therapy brought memories up.
INSIGHT

Internet Catalyzed Leaving Religion And Exploring Swinging

  • TikTok and online communities triggered Mark's exit from Mormonism and opened the couple to sexual freedom.
  • Mark found ex-Mormon content and a swinging e-book simultaneously, which reframed belief and desire in one intense period in 2020.
ANECDOTE

Soaking And Jumping Are Used As Loopholes

  • Tonya and Mark described 'soaking' and 'jumping' as Mormon sexual loopholes used to skirt prohibitions.
  • They explained soaking involves penetration without movement and a third person 'jumper' creating motion to claim no sex occurred.
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