AuDHD Flourishing 133 Anger and Aloneness
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Mar 7, 2026 They talk about feeling anger and overwhelm about ongoing crises and how that emotion can motivate change. The conversation separates chosen alone time from painful isolation and when each harms wellbeing. They explore channeling anger into nourishing care, valuing feeding and household work as movement support. Practical tips include mending, cleaning, and small acts that build capacity for future community action.
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Anger Often Hides Fear Grief Or Shame
- Anger often masks other emotions like fear, grief, or shame rather than being merely reactionary.
- Mattia explains anger can be primary or secondary and often becomes 'secondary anger' due to poor cultural modeling and suppression.
Personal Overload Feels Like Existential Aloneness
- Mattia shares feeling alone when overloaded with responsibilities that they can't delegate, which increases stress and anger.
- Example: partner offers help but many tasks are personally-owned, creating an existential sense of isolated responsibility.
Rage Online Feels Less Productive Than Movement Anger
- Public online rage (rants at strangers) rarely feels productive, while anger at injustice often fuels lasting collective movements.
- Mattia contrasts performative internet anger with organized action that has historically driven change.