Brian sits down with life coach and motivational speaker Valorie Burton to talk about what it really takes to endure pressure — and come out wiser and stronger on the other side. Valorie breaks resilience down into a learnable, diagnosable system: adaptive skills (what’s happening inside you), protective resources (what you can draw on), and preventive measures (the proactive choices that reduce future stress).

In the second part of the podcast, Anna Buffini, Buffini & Company’s Social Media Manager, (and Brian’s daughter) asks Valorie questions previously submitted by Buffini clients about the challenges they’re currently facing.

YOU WILL LEARN:

How to build a resilience system with adaptive skills, protective resources, and preventive measures.
A simple process to interrupt rumination and replace unhelpful thoughts with strengthening ones.
How to discern when to grit and when to quit — the difference between “hard” and “burdensome.”

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

The Brian Buffini Show
Rules of Resilience: 10 Ways Successful People Get Better, Wiser, and Stronger, by Valorie Burton

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE:

“We also need resilience when the opportunity is in front of us...it’s also necessary for success.” — Valorie Burton

“What a system also does is it helps you diagnose — where you could strengthen elements of your system that would lift you to the level where you need to be.” — Valorie Burton

“The most important adaptive skill to have is thought awareness.” — Valorie Burton

“When you start saying different things to yourself, it results in different choices and different actions.” — Valorie Burton

“Coach yourself with that question — “What am I saying?’ Write it down. Write down the most persistent thought.” — Valorie Burton

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