Sarah Baldwin, a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and trauma resolution expert, explains how to rewire our past experiences using our nervous systems for secure attachment and better relationships. She explores the connection between attachment styles and the nervous system, the challenges of leaving familiar experiences, and the impact of trauma on personal growth. Sarah also discusses somatic rewiring, attunement, understanding avoidant attachment, and how media and government influence our nervous systems.
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Attraction to Unavailable Partners
Sarah Baldwin shares her experience of repeatedly choosing partners who were already in relationships.
This pattern stemmed from her nervous system recognizing and seeking a familiar dynamic from her past.
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Rewiring the Nervous System
We can rewire our nervous system and create a new internal secure attachment.
This involves becoming the parent we needed as a child and providing ourselves with the missing attunement and safety.
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Internal Co-regulation
Understand the difference between your adult self and younger parts, recognizing their distinct autonomic tones.
Practice internal co-regulation by getting your adult self present to comfort and attune to the younger parts.
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Today I welcome back Sarah Baldwin for the third time - Sarah’s last two podcasts have the most downloads out of any of my episodes! Sarah is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and expert in the field of trauma resolution. She’s a member of the world-renowned Polyvagal Theory training team and has trained clinicians around the world in nervous system interventions.
In this episode, Sarah explains how we can use our nervous systems to rewire our past experiences to create secure attachment, deepen intimacy, and ultimately have better relationships. She brings light to the core needs resulting from our childhood experiences that drive our adult behaviors, and how understanding the connection can help us identify the root causes of ruptures in our relationships. She also guides us through somatic regulation techniques to foster more genuine connections, gently expand our comfort zones, and finally heal the traumas of our past so we can be the best version of ourselves today. Nervous system regulation is some of the most important work we can do, so dive right in to learn more!
— Sarah’s Instagram @sarahbcoaching: https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching
—Sarah’s Website: sarahbaldwincoaching.com
—Sarah’s Amazing Course - You Make Sense: https://programs.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/you-make-sense
Themes: Somatic Therapy, Nervous System, Regulation, Self-Healing, Trauma, Attachment Theory, Relational Dynamics, Relationships, Belonging, Societal Pressures, Childhood Trauma, Overcoming Fear, Healing Our Past, Parenting
Chapters:
0:00:00 Intro
0:08:34 The Importance of Feeling Safe in Our Nervous System
0:13:02 Unconscious attraction resulting from childhood experiences
0:14:00 Disconfirming Experiences
0:18:42 Internal Co-regulation: Changing Autonomic Tones for Self-Healing
0:21:41 How to help others regulate without becoming dysregulated
0:27:33 Meeting our own needs and creating internal secure attachment
0:31:01 Nervous System Responses in Relational Dynamics
0:38:35 Avoidant attachment and the human need for connection
0:42:12 The struggle of avoidance and the desire for connection
0:45:18 Building capacity for good things in life and overcoming overwhelm
0:48:25 Shifting from posturing to desiring genuine connection
0:52:08 Taking tolerable steps towards connection and expanding comfort zone
0:56:08 The Power of Relationships in Motivating Change
1:00:47 The Nervous System and the Impact of Media and Propaganda
1:05:10 The Impact of Nervous System Healing on Relationships
1:08:37 Nervous System Regulation in Every System for a Better World
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