Pure Desire Podcast 191 - Tools For Betrayal: FASTER Scale
Mar 2, 2021
Ashley Jameson, a leader in Pure Desire, specializes in guiding women through recovery from betrayal trauma. In this discussion, she introduces the FASTER Scale, an emotional awareness tool designed to help betrayed spouses navigate their healing journey. The conversation delves into how FASTER can prevent relapse and support self-awareness beyond sexual behavior, applying to areas like workaholism and binge eating. Ashley emphasizes its role in stabilizing emotions and fostering empathy in relationships, along with practical tips for couples to use it effectively.
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Awareness, Not A Performance Score
- The FASTER Scale isn't a performance metric; awareness is the aim, not scoring good or bad weeks.
- Awareness enables deliberate choices to avert predictable downward tracks toward relapse.
Use The Scale During Trauma
- Use the FASTER Scale to notice when trauma or betrayal shuts down your rational brain and pushes you toward coping behaviors.
- Rely on outside voices and tools during high emotional times to stay grounded.
Dishes Revealed A Stress Pattern
- Trevor used FASTER language when he noticed himself doing dishes during stress and then processed with his wife instead of isolating.
- That check prevented escalation and kept connection intact.