Beyond Words with Najwa Zebian 035- You’re Not Attached to Them. You’re Attached to What They Represent.
Mar 10, 2026
30:01
In this episode of Beyond Words, Najwa explores the painful truth that attachment is not always about the person in front of us, but about what they represent: the need to prove our worth, the hope of finally being chosen, and the belief that love must be earned through struggle.
If you’ve ever found yourself chasing someone’s approval, overexplaining your heart, or shrinking yourself just to be accepted, this episode is for you. This conversation is a reminder that real love does not ask you to abandon yourself in order to receive it.
In this episode, Ian talks about:
- why some attachments are rooted in old emotional wounds
- how people can trigger the need to prove your worth
- the difference between loving someone and chasing what they symbolize
- why unhealthy dynamics can feel familiar
- how shrinking yourself for love leads to self-betrayal
- the shift from asking “Why can’t I have that?” to “Why don’t I have that?”
This episode is for anyone learning to break the pattern of fighting to be seen, chosen, and loved.