Chasing Excellence The Most Important Question to Ask Your Kids Before Bed
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Apr 2, 2026 
Mark England, mindset coach and co-founder of Enlifted, helps train coaches and families in resilience. He talks about the WINS journal practice for kids, swapping “what went wrong” for “what went right,” and how small nightly reflections build self-credit. Short, practical ideas on family language and a children’s book that sparks meaningful bedtime conversations.
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Start A Daily WINS Journal
- Do start a daily WINS journal with your child by having them write one full sentence each day about something they did well.
- Mark England says one sentence on one page per day and reading it aloud turns the habit into a short ceremony that trains kids to give themselves credit.
Reframe Nightly Reflection To What Went Right
- Replace the nightly question "what went wrong?" with "what went right?" to reframe how children see themselves daily.
- Patrick Cummings and Mark England explain this reframing trains kids to see themselves as good enough over time.
People Are Skilled At Dismissing Compliments
- Many people have a near-automatic habit of deflecting or minimizing praise, which prevents internal credit-taking.
- Mark England calls it a "third-degree black belt" in dismissing compliments and says kids need a tool to learn self-credit.
