HR Coffee Time 167 | A Surprising Way to Feel Calm and More Confident in Stressful Moments
Is there something at work you know you’re capable of… but in the moment, your nerves take over?
Whether it’s speaking up in a meeting, handling a difficult conversation, or stepping into a high-pressure situation - that disconnect between what you can do and how you feel can be incredibly frustrating.
In this episode of HR Coffee Time, I share a simple but slightly unusual technique that can help you feel calmer, more in control, and more confident when it matters most.
It's called 'distanced self-talk', and it might feel a bit strange at first – but it’s backed by research and can make a real difference in those moments where your confidence wobbles.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode
- Why confidence can disappear in high-pressure moments
- A simple technique that helps you step back from anxious thoughts
- How this approach can reduce nerves and help you think more clearly
- Practical ways to use it before and during challenging situations at work
- Real examples of when to try it – including meetings, presentations, and interviews
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Useful Links from This Episode
- Connect with Fay on LinkedIn
- Learn about Fay’s Essential HR Planner
- Learn about Fay’s Inspiring HR Leadership Programme
Other Relevant HR Coffee Time Episodes
- Ep 1: How to feel more confident at work
- Ep 16: How to become more confident about networking
- Ep 36: Four simple but powerful techniques to banish imposter syndrome
- Ep 43: The one thing that will boost your resilience throughout your HR career
- Ep 49: 7 tips to help you feel more confident for your job interview
- Ep 73: 5 ways to feel more confident in your next interview, meeting, or presentation
- Ep 74: How to get better at presenting & feel more confident about it
- Ep 82: 5 tips to tackle a challenge at work when you aren’t feeling confident
- Ep 101: How to build confidence with networking for HR career success
- Ep 122: Unlocking confidence for your HR career – 5 tips from expert guests
- Ep 137: How to recognise & break free from the lies we tell ourselves at work
- Ep 162: How to Feel More Confident Speaking Up in Leadership Meetings
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