Heal The Hurt How To Stop Over Explaining Yourself
Apr 26, 2023
Dive into the fascinating roots of over-explaining, tracing it back to childhood emotional neglect. Discover how feelings manifest in the body and learn to recognize them using a feelings wheel. Uncover strategies children develop for seeking attention and how these habits linger into adulthood. Kenny shares a simple method to 'give the pain back' and introduces the concept of reparenting your inner child. Plus, practical tips on pausing before conversations to set boundaries and communicate more effectively.
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Identify The Feeling And Its Origin
- Identify the feeling when you notice yourself over-explaining and name it using a feelings wheel.
- Locate where you feel it in your body and trace back to the earliest memory of that sensation.
Childhood Roots Of Over-Explaining
- Over-explaining often comes from childhood experiences of emotional unavailability.
- That repeated early pattern taught us to use words to chase attention and connection.
Father In The Leather Chair
- Kenny remembers sitting beside his father in a leather chair trying to get attention while his dad read the paper.
- That repeated neglect taught him to keep explaining in hope of finally being heard.