Therapy in a Nutshell How to Heal Attachment Wounds - Anxious or Avoidant Attachment styles w/ Jessica Baum
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Apr 10, 2026 
Jessica Baum, licensed mental health counselor and author focused on attachment, explains how attachment styles form and can change. She talks about why we repeat painful patterns and why healing needs real relational repair. Practical topics include polyvagal safety, nervous-system cues, inner resourcing, and parenting as a pathway to earned security.
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Attachment Styles Are Blueprints Not Labels
- Attachment styles form as blueprints from early caregiver interactions and later show up in adult romantic and familial relationships.
- Jessica Baum explains four styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized) and that people often have a default but can shift across a "wheel of attachment" depending on context.
Attachment Styles Can Change With Earned Security
- Attachment styles are not fixed; neuroplasticity and relational healing can move people toward earned security.
- Baum emphasizes we are drawn to familiar patterns (even painful ones) and can consciously break them with the right work.
Do Healing Work In Relationship Not Alone
- Heal attachment wounds in relationship not isolation; seek anchors who offer emotional holding and co-regulation.
- Baum recommends therapy or safe relationships because early wounds need adult witnessing to move from body to narrative.
