The Next Big Idea Daily Your Relationship Habits Are Broken. The Fix Is Counterintuitive.
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Mar 2, 2026 
Ann Kelly, psychotherapist and Secure Relating co-author, and Sue Marriott, fellow therapist and researcher, join Nedra Glover Tawwab, bestselling therapist and boundaries expert. They explore doing the uncomfortable opposite to change patterns. They discuss flexible attachment, spotting activation early, expanding support networks, and how small daily interactions and chronic stress shape relationships.
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Do The Opposite Of Failing Habits
- Do the opposite of your habitual move when it's failing you to get different relationship results.
- Example: if you never invite people, issue the invites even if it feels cringy because repeating the same pattern won't produce change.
Attachment Styles Are Flexible Information
- Attachment styles are information, not fixed identities you must obey.
- Use past examples where you were secure to practice different behaviors and heal beyond labels.
Build More People Into Your Support Network
- Expand your social network to avoid overburdening a single relationship.
- Do a needs assessment and cultivate new people (neighbors, friends, siblings) for specific support rather than demanding existing contacts change.
