On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Parenting Expert Emily Oster: The #1 Parenting Mistake That Causes Unnecessary Stress (Use THIS Data-Backed Framework to Debunk the Biggest Parenting Myths!)

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Apr 13, 2026
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Emily Oster
Emily Oster, economist and bestselling author behind ParentData, brings a sharp, research-first lens to modern parenting. She digs into why advice overload creates stress. The conversation explores fertility myths, pregnancy rules, sleep training, screen time, partnership planning, achievement culture, and why many parenting choices are preference, not science.
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Sleep Training Is A Tool Not A Moral Issue

  • Sleep training is not one-size-fits-all, but evidence does not support the fear that it causes long-term attachment harm.
  • Emily Oster says the real unsustainable pattern is repeated 90-minute wakeups without either independent sleep or co-sleeping.
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Crying It Out Is Not The Same As Abandonment

  • The fear that crying briefly teaches abandonment comes from misapplying extreme attachment research to ordinary families.
  • Emily Oster contrasts sleep training with Romanian orphanages where abused babies learned no one would ever come.
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Phones Need Driving Lessons Not Just Restrictions

  • As kids grow, screen concerns shift from pure exposure to what screens displace and how social media is scaffolded.
  • Emily Oster compares phones to cars, arguing parents should teach use, monitor behavior, and be willing to take the keys away.
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