Can We Control The Voice In Our Heads? | Harnessing Your Inner Chatter On Dealing With Feelings

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Mar 6, 2025

Dr. Ethan Kross, a prominent researcher in emotion regulation and author of 'Chatter', shares his insights on managing the voice in our heads. He discusses the dual nature of introspection, highlighting its benefits and pitfalls. Kross introduces the concept of 'self-distancing' to help navigate anxiety and stress effectively. With practical strategies like using one's name in self-talk and the importance of social support, he emphasizes the need for personalized approaches to emotional well-being and resilience.

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ANECDOTE

Dad's Early Lessons Shaped A Career

Ethan's father taught him Eastern philosophy and emotion regulation from age three, implanting lifelong curiosity.
A college psych class revealed introspection's double edge and sealed his research career choice.

ADVICE

Use Your Name To Coach Yourself

Use distanced self-talk by addressing yourself with your name or 'you' to shift into advisory mode.
That linguistic shift makes it easier to reason objectively and coach yourself through stress.

ANECDOTE

A Diver's Three-Breath Ritual

Ethan's daughter uses a simple ritual before diving: three breaths, a fist pound, and 'Maya, you got this.'
That ritual blends control, ritual, and distanced self-talk to steady performance.

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Join Dr. Marc Brackett on "Dealing With Feelings" as he welcomes Dr. Ethan Kross, an expert in healthy emotion regulation and the author of the critically acclaimed book, 'Chatter'. Learn why the voices in your head matter and how to harness the power of your own emotions for a more balanced and fulfilling life.

What To Expect From This Episode:

-Hear how Ethan's background and how early lessons in Eastern philosophy influenced his approach to understanding emotions.

-Become aware of the benefits and pitfalls of introspection, and strategies for keeping our inner reflections productive.

-Learn techniques like 'self-distancing' which help us approach personal issues such as dealing with anxiety or stress with a clearer mind.

-Learn when and how to use emotional tools effectively, and why sometimes the best action is inaction.

-Hear personal anecdotes from Ethan on building resilience as well as the power of a supportive environment for emotional expression.

Key Takeaways:

-Emotion regulation is a nuanced skill that can be developed with practice and self-experimentation.

-There are no universal solutions for emotional management, emphasizing the need for personalization in emotional well-being.

-Effective emotional communication involves connecting first, then advising

Throughout the webcast, Dr. Marc Brackett, Director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, will guide the conversation, providing insights from his own work and how it complements Ethan's findings.

Don't miss out on this opportunity to reshape your relationship with your emotions and harness the full potential of your emotional intelligence. Tune in, take notes, and transform your life—one self-distanced thought at a time.

Engage with Ethan Kross: Explore his work further and gain access to resources that can elevate your emotional wellbeing.-- https://www.ethankross.com

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