The Liz Moody Podcast How To Know If You Should Have Kid(s) + Debunking Myths About Parenthood With Merle Bombardieri, MSW, LICSW
Mar 29, 2023
Merle Bombardieri, a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist with over 30 years of experience, dives into the complex decision of parenthood. She offers judgment-free insights on assessing the desire for children, emphasizing the importance of understanding personal readiness and financial considerations. Merle debunks myths surrounding only children versus siblings, discusses fertility doubts, and highlights the emotional impacts of parenthood on relationships. She also encourages exploring meaning in life beyond parenting, providing a holistic view of the decision-making process.
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Policy Shapes Parenthood Feasibility
- The U.S. claims to value children but invests far less in parental supports than many European countries.
- Policy differences (paid leave, childcare) dramatically change how feasible parenting feels.
Ambivalence Is Normal; Seek Least-Regret
- Ambivalence about having kids is normal and not a reason to automatically say no.
- Aim for a clarity threshold (e.g., 60-40 moving toward 80-20) and consider which choice you'll regret least.
Map Your Unfinished Life Goals
- Identify what unfinished hopes or goals matter most before deciding on children.
- Use that list to see how parenthood fits those priorities or what trade-offs you'll accept.
