The Baggage Reclaim Sessions Ep. 198: Perfectionism and The Idealised Version of Ourselves
Oct 2, 2020
A look at the idealised self and how chasing a perfect image creates self-pressure and guilt. Uses lockdown productivity trends and personal running stories to show perfectionism in daily life. Examines childhood roots, competitive drives, and the physical toll of relentless standards. Offers ways to spot the gap between who we are and who we try to be.
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Marathon Training As A Metaphor
- She tells how marathon training exposed a perfectionist fantasy of instant mastery after minimal experience.
- The anecdote highlights the perfectionist urge to skip the vulnerable learning journey.
Talk To The Urge To Overdo
- Name the part of you that pushes for impossible standards and ask what it wants.
- Use that conversation to calibrate plans and avoid overloading your bandwidth.
Self-Criticism Signals Unmet Needs
- Chronic self-criticism often signals unmet needs and punishes the real self for not matching the fantasy.
- Natalie points out you may be angry at yourself for failing to be your idealized version.
