Complex with Kimberley Wilson Are you a liar?
Nov 19, 2025
In this enlightening conversation, Dr. Charlotte Cooper, a psychotherapist with expertise in sociology, queer theory, and disability, dives into the complex psychology of lying. They reveal that we lie 1-2 times daily, often starting in childhood as a cognitive milestone. The discussion covers how lies can manipulate social dynamics and contribute to feelings of isolation. Cooper shares her tips for fostering honesty, emphasizing the importance of safe communication. Together, they unravel the hidden costs of deception on mental well-being.
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Secret Solo Trip To New York
- Listener 'Alex' lied to her partner about extending a work trip to secretly stay in New York.
- The lie gave short respite but later caused guilt and relational conflict when discovered.
Lying Defined As Reality Distortion
- Kimberley and Charlotte define lying as telling a story with the intention to deceive someone.
- Lying warps reality by creating a different version of events than the known truth.
Lies As Social Management Tools
- Many lies manage social engagements and relationships rather than produce malicious harm.
- Lying often functions as a tool for politeness, face-saving and social smoothing.