Your Unmet Needs: The Real Reason You Can’t Stop Self-Sabotaging

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Unmet emotional needs are the invisible saboteurs behind some of our most frustrating patterns. 

I'm talking about the stuff where you know exactly what you need to change and you still can't do it. 

In this episode I'm getting into what unmet needs actually are, how they're different from values, and how they've been running my life in ways I didn't see for years. 

I share my own story of years of buying way too much stuff and filling up every room in my house, no matter how many times I tried to stop. I also walk through real examples from my clients and my own family to show you the two signs that a need is in the driver's seat.

Topics covered:

• Why organizing and decluttering never worked for me, and what I was actually trying to solve for
• The difference between needs and values, and why people mix them up
• Two signs an unmet need is running things: behavior you can't stop, and emotional reactions that are way out of proportion to the situation
• How unmet needs show up in sales calls, relationships, and everyday conflict
• Why we lock onto one way to meet a need and act like it's the only option
• Common patterns I see in my clients: overworking, people-pleasing, emotional eating, and relationship conflict
• An exercise to start figuring out your own unmet psychological needs (and when to do this with a therapist or coach, not alone)

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