
Sideways 80. Broody Men
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Feb 18, 2026 Dr Anna Machin, evolutionary anthropologist and author, explains paternal biology and why men hide intense parental longing. Simon Burrell, a gay single man who pursued fatherhood via surrogacy, shares his extraordinary journey to become a dad. They discuss male baby lust, myths about fathers, fertility and ageing, cultural portrayals of dads, and the emotional and legal challenges of single surrogacy.
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Early Fatherhood Sparked Then Deferred
- At 17 Simon enjoyed doting on his younger cousin and was told he'd make a great dad, which planted an early fatherhood image.
- He later realised he was gay and shelved parental plans due to legal and social barriers in the early 1990s.
Male Fertility Isn’t Limitless
- Female fertility limits are real and widely amplified by culture as the "biological clock" narrative.
- Male fertility also declines with age and carries genetic risks, so fatherhood is not limitless.
Statistical Blindspot Masks Childless Men
- Birth registration routinely records mothers' fertility histories but not fathers', creating a data gap on childless men.
- This statistical invisibility reinforces cultural focus on female childlessness while sidelining men's experiences.




