Marissa King, a Yale School of Management professor and author of "Social Chemistry," discusses the profound health benefits of building positive relationships. She emphasizes the quality and structure of social networks over sheer numbers. King highlights the importance of humor and reconnecting with old friends. She encourages listeners to explore their networking roles—whether as conveners, brokers, or expansionists—and shares insights on how COVID-19 has impacted social dynamics and the need for intentionality in cultivating connections.
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Network Quality vs. Quantity
Network quality and structure matter more than quantity for various outcomes.
These outcomes include pay, career success, well-being, and even mortality.
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Intentional Socializing
Dan Harris and his wife are intentionally creating social opportunities post-pandemic.
They are making lists of people to see and considering separate events for different friend groups.
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Pandemic Network Shrinkage
The pandemic has shrunk social networks, especially men's, due to reduced shared activities.
This shrinkage may endure, similar to post-Katrina and post-parenthood network reductions.
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The idea of networking can be fraught. For some people, it might, at times, seem either icky or pathetic to deliberately try to make friends, either in a personal or professional context -- especially since so many of us may be feeling a bit socially awkward anyway, after months of Covid restrictions. However, my guest today will argue that there are profound health benefits to building positive relationships, and she has advice about how to actually do it, based on neuroscience and psychology. Marissa King is a Professor of Organizational Behavior at the Yale School of Management, where she studies social networks, social influence, and team dynamics. She is also the author of a recently-released book, called Social Chemistry: Decoding the Patterns of Human Connection. In this conversation, we talk about: how your social networks impact your mental health; how, when it comes to social networks, quality and structure are more important than quantity; why you're not as bad at being social as you may think; the importance of humor; how status and privilege play into networking; the benefits of calling up old friends you haven't spoken to in a while; and she will ask you to consider whether you are a convener, a broker, or an expansionist. This is actually part two of a two-part series that we're running this week about the hard science and soft skills of social connection. If you missed it on Monday, we had an amazing interview with a researcher named Barbara Fredrickson from UNC Chapel Hill. She has a lot of fascinating things to say about what love actually is and takes a pretty broad view of the concept of love. You don't have to listen to that in order to understand this episode, but I think they work great in concert. One more item of business, and it is an invitation for you to participate in this show. In June, we'll be launching a special series of podcast episodes focusing on anxiety, something I'm sure we're all too familiar with. In this series, you'll learn the mechanics of anxiety: how and why it shows up and what you may be doing to feed it. And this is where you come in. We'd love to hear from you with your questions about anxiety that experts will answer during our anxiety series on the podcast. So whether you're struggling with social anxiety, anxiety about re-entering the world post-Covid, or have any other questions about anxiety - we want to hear from you. To submit a question or share a reflection call (646) 883-8326 and leave us a voicemail. If you're outside the United States, you can email us a voice memo file in mp3 format to listener@tenpercent.com. The deadline for submissions is Wednesday, May 12th. And if you don't already have the Ten Percent Happier app, you can download it for free wherever you get your apps or by clicking here: https://www.tenpercent.com/?_branch_match_id=888540266380716858. Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/marissa-king-342
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