Collecting the Bones: Ego States, Self-Work, and the Therapist’s Inner World with Jessica Downs

What happens when therapy stops being about techniques — and starts becoming about you?

In this deeply reflective episode of Notice That, Bridger and Jen are joined by therapist and trainer Jessica Downs for an intimate conversation exploring the inner life of therapists, professional identity, and the personal work that inevitably emerges beneath clinical practice.

Together, they explore the hidden motivations that draw people into helping professions, the illusion of the “next training” as a solution to therapeutic stuckness, and the moment many therapists encounter when professional development turns into personal reckoning.

This episode moves beyond theory into experience, as Jessica guides a live experiential exercise inviting listeners to connect with younger parts of themselves — demonstrating how EMDR principles, ego state work, and imagination can foster integration and self-compassion.

Themes explored include:

• Why therapists often chase new modalities or trainings
• The relationship between burnout and unresolved inner dynamics
• Countertransference and the therapist’s personal history
• Ego states and parts work through an EMDR lens
• The role of suffering in human experience
• Individuation, identity, and professional evolution
• Healing as wholeness rather than symptom elimination

This conversation is slower, more inward, and intentionally reflective — an invitation to pause, notice, and reconnect with the parts of yourself that brought you into this work in the first place.

In This Episode, We Discuss

• The unconscious reasons therapists become therapists
• When “helping people” isn’t the whole story
• Capitalism, continuing education culture, and therapist insecurity
• Internal imagery and symbolic work in healing
• Parenting, therapy, and mirrors of the self
• Jessica’s “spotlighting” ego state exercise (follow along included)
• The La Loba myth and reclaiming lost parts of self

About Our Guest — Jessica Downs

Jessica Downs is a trauma therapist, EMDR clinician, and co-founder of Iris Training Collective. Her work integrates EMDR, ego state approaches, symbolism, and depth psychology to help therapists reconnect with authenticity and wholeness in both personal and professional development.

Resources & Links

• Iris Training Collective
• Live Well Counseling Center (Grand Junction, CO)
• Notice That Podcast
• Beyond Healing trainings and consultation opportunities

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