Dating Intentionally 239. Singles Events, Setups & Lessons From Vetting 800 Men w/ Alli Goldberg
Feb 20, 2026
Alli Goldberg, creator of the live dating show Love Isn't Blind who’s interviewed ~800 men, shares patterns from hundreds of interviews. She discusses how singles events and couple-led setups spark real connections. Conversations cover vetting via friends, positive masculinity, why women shouldn’t always be afraid of men, and practical ways to create matchmaking-friendly gatherings.
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Use Event Energy And Prompts To Meet People
- To meet someone at a singles event, put yourself out there and lean into the event's energy and activities.
- Alli's events add structured prompts (like bingo) to help introverts start conversations and take the leap.
Couples: Be Active Wing People
- Couples at events should pledge to be active wing people and introduce singles to reduce rejection pressure.
- Incentivize couples (e.g., prizes) so they proactively connect their single friends.
Ask Couples Straight For A Setup
- Ask couples directly for setups when they bring up your dating life and pivot the conversation to who they could introduce.
- Make it easy for them to act by saying, "Who do you have to set me up with?"