ADHD Aha! Adult ADHD, perfectionism, and soft productivity (Fellisia Robinson’s story)
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Mar 3, 2026 Fellisia Robinson, mental health advocate and founder of Brown Girl ADHD who builds resources and a soft productivity planner for Black and Brown women, shares her late ADHD diagnosis and the relief it brought. She talks about perfectionism, masking, and pressure to perform. She explores choosing soft productivity and slowing down instead of constant hustle.
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Growing Up Third Culture And Building Inner Worlds
- Fellisia grew up as a third culture kid who often felt out of place and developed rich inner worlds for comfort.
- Being an only child until 12 and moving from Jamaica to New Jersey pushed her toward creativity, fashion, and solitary play for coping.
Coping Skills Become Identity And Social Tools
- ADHD coping skills often become strengths and identities, like fashion serving as both protection and expression.
- Fellisia used changing outfits and personas to navigate social uncertainty and craft an identity that avoided isolation.
Perfectionism Tied To Worth And Black Excellence Pressure
- Perfectionism masked as academic success tied Fellisia's worth to grades and external validation.
- She pushed to graduate with honors and even questioned a 97, showing how high standards cost emotional wellbeing.