The OptimalWork Podcast 185. Getting Past Shame-Based Motivation
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Mar 4, 2024 Exploring the link between shame and motivation, overcoming fear of failure, embracing willingness for personal growth, and using Internal Family Systems therapy to navigate inner conflicts and foster growth.
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Shame As A Growth Blocker
- Shame is a specific form of anxiety about appearing disgraced in others' eyes that blocks growth.
- It makes learning curves feel embarrassing and drives unwillingness to stretch.
Willingness Versus Unwillingness
- Willingness equals motivation that accepts discomfort as part of growth.
- Unwillingness uses deception (procrastination, forgetfulness) to avoid discomfort.
Monthly Applications Built Career Momentum
- Kevin describes a patient who applied for jobs monthly to stay skilled at interviewing.
- Leaning into failure allowed him to leap to senior roles by age 29.