The Secret Life of Dads Podcast Keeping Your Relationship Alive While Raising Kids - with Eli Weinstein
Jan 6, 2026
Eli Weinstein, a licensed therapist and author of *From I Do to We Do*, specializes in supporting couples through the parenting years. In this engaging conversation, Eli discusses the identity shift from partners to co-parents and why resentment can sneak in. He shares practical tips for maintaining connection, such as nightly check-ins and the importance of expressing appreciation. Eli emphasizes the need for couples to prioritize intimacy and navigate different parenting styles without losing their individual identities. A must-listen for parents seeking balance!
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Crawling Out After Bedtime
- Eli describes crawling out of a child's room after bedtime to avoid waking them and feeling trapped by the routine.
- He uses this image to illustrate the guerrilla warfare of early parenting nights.
Simple Anniversary Spa Day
- Eli and his wife took a simple anniversary hotel-and-spa day nearby instead of an elaborate trip to reconnect.
- He emphasizes that small, low-effort time together can restore connection.
Don't Scorekeep — Check Tanks Instead
- Avoid scorekeeping; effort isn't directly comparable between partners because tasks drain people differently.
- Use the 'where's your tank at?' check instead of counting chores to gauge capacity.
