Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction Stop Doomscrolling and Start Hopescrolling
Dr. Skip Speer and Tami talk about doomscrolling and hopescrolling, the features of each, and how to tailor your algorithm to lift you up at every stage of recovery. They then answer participant questions about sex addiction, including narcissism, gaslighting, and therapist obligations as mandatory reporters.
TAKEAWAYS:
[1:49] Doomscrolling versus hopescrolling – how to engage in what serves you.
[7:01] Using your phone to numb out? Try this instead.
[8:50] What is the difference between a CSAT and a regular therapist?
[13:25] Do we really need a couples therapist?
[20:24] The importance of accountability in therapy.
[26:57] Programs for sex addiction with narcissistic traits.
[37:25] The danger of denial in recovery.
[41:03] Dealing with a sex offender changes the recovery game.
[44:49] Key differences between narcissism and sociopathic behaviors.
[46:45] How can I financially separate myself from my betraying partner?
[50:05] My partner is looking at underage porn. Should I report him?
[54:33] Is the term 'gaslighting' used too loosely?
[56:30] What are the obligations of a mandatory reporter?
[58:30] What is the likelihood that underage porn addicts will ever ask for help if they know they will be reported?
RESOURCES:
Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss
Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss
Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss
Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.
QUOTES
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"It feels better to comfort than confront, but at the end of the day, recovering addicts need accountability."
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"In real recovery, we're looking for anything that is problematic or helping us escape in unhealthy ways."
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"You know what your partner is not willing to do. So what are you willing to do?"