Listener question : fear and relationships

Listener Question:

Generally, life’s mirror reflects worry, doubt and perfectionism in relationships which makes spending large chunks of time on my own much easier and mostly a relief.  
However, I wonder if I’m missing out through ignorance of what healthy relationships can be like.  Since there’s only now, and only our current state of learning and readiness, how is space created for patterns of belief to be shed?  I can absolutely see and hear the self in this, and wonder if these glaring relationship difficulties are an insistent clarion call from life to trust that every experience is in my favour, no matter how overwhelming they feel, and to recognise that I am strong enough to feel the discomfort and uncertainty of real, seismic change.