Love Letters ‘I’m sorry I hid you’
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Mar 17, 2026 
Yowei Shaw, podcast host and producer who led Proxy and worked on NPR’s Invisibilia, shares a personal story about identity, queerness, and relationship dynamics. She recounts hiding her husband to fit into queer spaces. Short scenes cover early crushes, meeting Kyle, the hot pot moment that exposed her hiding, and her journey from shame toward apology and acceptance.
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How A Bridge Date Turned Into A Lifelong Partnership
- Yowei met Kyle while briefly exploring dating women, and their chemistry grew from a rickety bridge date to deep love and eventual marriage.
- Specific moments include biking to a train trestle, Kyle bringing bug spray and a six-pack, and a heartfelt talk that sealed their bond.
Queerness Put On Pause After Finding Comfort
- Yowei realized dating women earlier was both an exploration and an identity acknowledgment she paused after meeting Kyle.
- She admits she 'put the queer stuff on pause' because the straight relationship script felt easy and familiar.
The Hot Pot Night That Exposed Her Hiding
- As Yowei pursued a queer friend group she asked Kyle to stay home and sometimes made him 'vacate the vicinity' during gatherings.
- The hot pot night she hosted without Kyle led to her burning a hole in their table and friends noticing her coldness toward him.