It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People Q&A Lab: Dating Edition
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Feb 24, 2022 Listeners ask about relationships with volatile partners, and the hosts tackle patterns of sudden rage followed by affection. They explore extreme jealousy, privacy breaches, and how to set safety-focused boundaries. Practical separation strategies and warning signs of escalating danger are discussed. They also examine empathy deficits and how long to observe someone before committing.
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Rapid Mood Swings Signal High Conflict Traits
- High-conflict partners often swing rapidly between loving and raging due to borderline or narcissistic traits.
- Bill Eddy explains mood swings and 'narcissistic injury' where praise calms them but perceived slights trigger blame.
Document Threats And Consult A Lawyer
- Protect yourself from retaliation and threats by documenting false claims and limiting escalation.
- Bill Eddy advises telling friends/family it's a private matter and consulting a lawyer if threatened financially or reputationally.
Leave Live-In High Conflict Partners Gradually
- Exit high-conflict live-in relationships in steps rather than all at once to reduce immediate volatility.
- Bill Eddy recommends staged moves: ask for time to think, then announce separation, offer counseling/mediator, and consult a lawyer.
