Divorce and Separation Legal | From Power Imbalance to Practical Agreement: Inside the Mediation Room
I'm back with Gerard Rees from Simple Separation for part two of our conversation. In Episode 84, we spoke about superannuation what I sometimes call the hidden asset.
In this episode, we're talking about something I hear from clients all the time:
"I just want to be heard."
But what does that actually mean in mediation? And more importantly how do you make sure your voice is heard without the room blowing up?
Gerard shares what he listens for as a mediator when someone says that sentence. Often, it's not just about speaking. It's about power imbalance. It's about fear. It's about worrying you'll be intellectually, emotionally or financially overpowered.
We talk about:
- How mediators create safety in the room
- Why preparation builds confidence
- The behaviours that can accidentally make you harder to hear
- The difference between telling your story and negotiating your future
- Income disparity and how "future needs" really work
- What happens when you're still living under one roof
- When mediation isn't appropriate and why a mediator has a duty to withdraw
This is a practical, grounded, honest conversation about what mediation really looks like and how to approach it in a way that gives you the best chance of reaching an agreement you can actually live with.
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Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.
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Guest: Gerard Rees, Senior Mediator, Simple Separation
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Disclaimer
I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.