Love Factually

Fatal Attraction (1987) with Paige Harden

Feb 23, 2026
Paige Harden, clinical psychologist and behavioral geneticist and author, joins to analyze love, blame, and violence in Fatal Attraction. She parses sympathy and moral outrage. She discusses whether Alex’s behavior reflects borderline decompensation, how viewers crave punishment, and how perceived causes shape blame and complicity.
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ANECDOTE

Childhood Memory Of Nickelodeon Slime Rule

  • Paul recalls watching the Canadian show You Can't Do That on Television as a child and being struck by Alanis Morissette's appearance.
  • He also remembers the show's slime rule 'I don't know' and critiques its message discouraging admission of uncertainty.
INSIGHT

Most Stalking Comes From Relationships

  • Stalking is usually relational, growing out of a prior or nascent relationship rather than stranger obsession.
  • Paul explains research reframing stalking as obsessive relational intrusion, where courtly behaviors (calls, gifts) become unwanted and distressing.
ADVICE

Address Obsessive Intrusion Directly When Safe

  • Confronting unwanted obsessive relational intrusion often helps and need not always provoke escalation.
  • Paul notes modern research shows many endings are ambiguous and changing social interaction patterns or direct requests to stop can reduce stalking.
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